I often hear from wives who indicate that their husband has too many problems to deal with after he is caught cheating or having an affair. He is often embarrassed, embarrassed, nervous, uncomfortable, humiliated, or a combination of all of these things. Therefore, it can be quite difficult to deal with him after the affair, let alone to improve her problems or save her marriage.
I recently heard from a wife who said, “My husband wouldn’t admit his affair to me. In fact, I told him my suspicions very frankly and he denied them with everything he had. In fact, he acted hurt, like he was horrified.” that he would suspect or accuse him of such a thing. Still, something told me that things were not right. He still suspected that he had cheated on me. So I hired a private investigator to follow him. And sure enough, the investigator quickly caught him cheating. Once they told me where he was, I waited for him and confronted him as soon as he came out with the other woman. Needless to say, I made a great scene. I know my husband was very embarrassed, but he totally deserved it. Since then, I’ve told him what a liar I think he is. Still, there is a small part of me deep down that doesn’t want to leave my marriage. I expected my husband to do it right away. apologize and beg for my forgiveness, but he hasn’t done that. in my eyes now. He avoids me. He cuts me off when I try to speak. He basically makes it clear that he’s not going to talk about it. How can we even begin to heal when he acts like this? And why is he acting this way in the first place?” I will try to answer these questions in the next article.
Sometimes her husband can’t look at her after the affair because he’s embarrassed, embarrassed, or not sure what to do or say: I didn’t get a chance to talk to the husband at this stage. But I have corresponded with many men in this situation on my blog. Many will tell you that they are embarrassed and embarrassed. They will also tell you that they don’t know what is the right thing to do or say and that they are afraid of their wife’s reaction. In this particular scenario, the husband was probably even more humiliated by his own behavior because he adamantly denied the affair in the first place.
This alone can make it quite difficult to look someone in the eye. It is important for wives in this situation to remember that they have done nothing wrong. He’s the one in the wrong, and frankly, his reluctance to look you in the face and make full eye contact is a good indication that he’s fully aware of it.
His inability to look you in the eye can be an indication of guilt or remorse, which can be a positive sign: Frankly, the fact that your husband can’t look you in the face or make full eye contact can sometimes be a good sign. Men who are outraged and deny that they did anything wrong or who blame their wives for their actions are more likely to repeat those actions because they almost feel justified in their cheating.
Conversely, a man who is so embarrassed or uncomfortable that he can’t look you in the eye may well be having the difficulties he is because he knows how badly he has messed things up. He is having the strong reaction that he has because he is very aware of the big mistake that he has made. And this makes it more likely that he won’t want to repeat the same actions because he doesn’t want to feel that way ever again.
How to handle it when your husband doesn’t look you in the eye after their affair: Although there may be valid reasons why your husband is having difficulty coping with you, it can be very frustrating and may delay your healing if he does in fact have any interest in saving your marriage. So you might want to address this the next time it happens. A suggested script might be something like “could you look at me while we talk? We’re not going to make progress if you don’t even look me in the eye. I know it’s awkward for both of us, but in order for us to move forward, we’re going to need to be able to communicate and this includes making contact.” between us. I know this is awkward, but if you care about me and our marriage, I need you to do better. And you can start by looking at me when I’m talking to you.”
Hopefully, when he starts to see that making eye contact can be the start of making things better and that he needs to take responsibility for what he’s done and be man enough to handle the consequences of his own actions, he’ll see some improvements. . And some eye contact.
