When I worked at a national newspaper after leaving university and heading to the gold-paved streets of London, the receptionist for the entire newspaper was also a role model: at that stage of my life, I had never met anyone so attractive in my life. real. She every day she would come in and try to be nice, even try to be cool, and then I found out that she had made a fool of herself!
Why did I react that way towards her? Why was it that she went on to be so successful? Do you ever respond to people with a lack of confidence? And what about those other people from my school? My friend knew almost nothing about them as people, he had never heard them speak, but his success was not a surprise to him…
They all had a certain air about them, that without even opening their mouths, all these people could have a hypnotic effect on those around them. It’s this hypnotic body language that I want to talk about today because it can help you achieve more and stand out more without really having to do much more than slightly alter your nonverbal communication. I’d like to share with you 3 ways that are key to enhancing your own success.
3 keys to non-verbal hypnotic communication:
1- Genuine smiles and real laughs: I remember when I was a kid, when my parents would have friends over for dinner, my mom would always tell me to make sure to smile and to show my teeth when smiling when the guests arrived (I was never enough cheeky enough to snarl when I did, though I was tempted). My mother knew that, on an intuitive level, smiles produce positive reactions in people.
I’m talking about a real, authentic smile here. A smile that has come from the depths of you and that expresses happiness. A natural smile produces wrinkles around the eyes and face, insincere people smile only with their mouths. Genuine smiles often come from your unconscious mind, people can feel, see and feel that they are real. A real smile means that you smile with your whole face: the muscles of the mouth move, the cheeks rise, the eyes crinkle, and the eyebrows slightly sink.
So smile more. Also, smile with enthusiasm, fun and joy. He really puts a smile on the world.
The reason photographers use ‘cheese’ is because to say that word you have to pull your facial muscles back, but it often gives an insincere smile. How many photos have you seen showing that smiles are full of cheese and not genuine?
There is some scientific evidence to back up the widely used saying “when you smile, the world smiles with you.”
Professor Ruth Campbell of University College London, claims that there is a ‘mirror neuron’ in the brain that activates the neurology responsible for recognizing facial expressions and is the cause of an instantaneous and unconscious mirror reaction. In other words, whether we realize it or not, very often we unconsciously mirror the facial expressions we see.
So if you smile a true and genuine smile more often, the people around you smile more genuinely, that means they feel good around you. You are creating a better immediate environment for yourself and those around you. How do you feel if you are walking down the street and see someone with one of those deeply unhappy or angry faces? Science has shown that the more you smile, the more positive reactions people give you.
Do you laugh more if you watch a funny movie with friends or alone? Robert Provine found that people in a social setting were more than 30 times more likely to laugh than when they were alone. He discovered that laughter has less to do with jokes and funny stories and more to do with building relationships. Laughter creates a bond.
When you smile (a genuine smile) at another person, they almost always smile back with a genuine smile of their own, which leads to really positive feelings in both you and them; for cause and effect. Create a cycle of well-being: you smile and they feel good, they smile back and you feel good, and so on.
Studies show that most encounters work better, last longer, have more positive outcomes, and dramatically improve relationships when you make an effort to smile and laugh regularly to the point where it becomes a habit. I guess you already knew all this, but are you really smiling that much? Recent research suggests that we smile 400% more as children. How often do you genuinely smile at the world today?
2- Confidence – Something I obviously lacked when I was younger; Shamefully responding to the Newspaper receptionist.
I remember watching a documentary about a murdered schoolgirl in the UK. The girl’s parents gave a press conference to ask for help in the capture of the murderer. It was the downfall of assassins. The way the father communicated during this press conference led police to suspect that he was investigating and eventually obtained evidence that he killed his own daughter.
Many criminals are caught not because the clues point to them, but because they act guilty, self-conscious, and lack confidence. These feelings communicate enough to raise suspicions.
When we are congruent and, more importantly, internally confident, our body language becomes confident and this is communicated to the world.
Psychologists tell us that we can change our attitudes by changing our physical actions. So embracing the physiology of confidence can help you appear and actually be more confident. Think about how you hold your body when you are confident and hold it that way more often: cause and effect means that holding your body this way will make you feel more confident too.
I remember reading David Schwart’s brilliant book “The Magic of Thinking Big” a while back and he gave me 3 brilliant tactics to build confidence with just your body:
First of all, he recommended being a ‘front seat’. Every time you go to theaters, classrooms, meetings, or presentations, the last few rows always seem to fill up faster, don’t they? Most people go to the back so they won’t be too flashy and this often shows a lack of trust in that person. Start sitting up front today, comfortable in the sight of others, and build the confidence of being there.
Second, making good natural eye contact says a lot about confidence. If someone avoids eye contact, we can begin to wonder what is wrong with them or what they have to hide; maybe even holding something back. Lack of eye contact can suggest that the person feels weak next to you or is afraid of you in some way. Conquer this and force yourself to look the person in the eye, you don’t have to stare! Just looking into their eyes long enough to tell them that you believe in yourself, that you are honest, open, confident, and comfortable with who you are.
When you appear confident and believe in yourself, the other person tends to subconsciously agree with your opinion that there is something worth knowing about yourself: if you don’t have confidence in yourself or don’t feel good about yourself, why should you? should someone else be? This is communicated unconsciously beyond awareness, often with those wise ‘gut feelings’.
The other great tip David Schwartz gave is to walk 25 percent faster. I know when I was taken to football matches to see my beloved Nottingham Forest when I was young, my dad would always tell me to slow down because he was excited and excited about my destination.
Psychologists associate sloppy postures and slow walking with unpleasant attitudes towards oneself, work and the people around us. But psychologists also tell us that you can change your attitudes by changing your posture and speed of movement. The action of the body is the result of the action of the mind, and vice versa, as I have already said; cause and effect! The person with low morale is shuffling and literally stumbles through life with little confidence. In the same way, average people have an average gait. You can see it and feel it.
Confident people move deliberately, have an important place to go, and are going to succeed every time they get there. Open your chest, throw your shoulders back, hold your head high, be proud of who you are, move a little faster, and feel your confidence grow. It doesn’t have to be dramatic, just hold your body with confidence.
3- The right side of the brain: most people are right-handed and, as such, have all the emotional aspects of their experiences and lives stored in the right side of their brain and motor responses and practical use of the brain exist in The left side. side of your brain.
Evolutionary psychologists debate this, most tend to believe that we all have six basic emotions. Everything else is a derivative of those. Those six core emotions are: Happiness. Surprise. Disgust. Fear. Anger. Sadness.
What is worth noting here is that only two of them are considered to be really good. If we’re honest with ourselves, only one is guaranteed to be good, right? With April Fools just past, I am reminded of how much I ‘enjoy’ the surprise!
The vast majority of our emotions stored in our brains are unpleasant in some form. It is true, bad things tend to stand out much more in our minds than good things.
So if you’re going to respond to anyone’s right brain, you might be subconsciously associating with all those emotions stored in the right brain. You don’t want to do that.
To use this information to help you in life then when you meet someone for the first time; position yourself so they have to look slightly to the right to see you. Look into your right eye when you shake hands. I believe in this to the point that my photo is on the right hand side of the page on my websites, in my offices I position my chair in such a way that my clients have to look slightly to the right when we communicate, etc. .
So, there are three powerful things to keep in mind when it comes to improving your levels of success and achievement without opening your mouth.
Notice how when you smile genuinely and enthusiastically; when you carry yourself with confidence and resonate with the right parts of the brain, you begin to resonate with the entire world much, much more progressively.
