Being a parent is a difficult job to handle. One of the most difficult tasks for parents is disciplining a child. Parents have developed different ways to discipline a child. Some parents are firm, while others are so soft that they can’t bear to berate and hit their children. According to Bette Davis, “Discipline is a symbol of caring for a child. Discipline is a guide. If there is love, there is no such thing as being too hard on a child.” There is truth in her words. Parents should discipline their children out of love, not because they want to prove something or make the child suffer. Unfortunately, there are parents who still don’t know the difference between reasonable corporal punishment and abuse. As a result, more than five children die each day as a result of child abuse. To better understand, let’s list the most common ineffective ways to discipline a child.
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Abuse is defined as anything that is hurtful, hurtful, or offensive. It includes physical, spiritual, sexual and emotional aspects. According to statistics, verbal abuse or putting down a child with petty, offensive statements can cause more lasting damage than sexual abuse. Yelling at and yelling at your child is a form of verbal abuse. It is important for parents to understand that yelling will never help a child understand the situation. Yelling can only lower a child’s self-confidence.
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Shaming is the same as publicly humiliating a child. There are several cases where a parent forces a child to wear a placard in public, which reveals the things that he has wrongfully done. There are parents who think humiliation is a quick fix. But experts believe that this type of discipline is a mistake. Shaming a child in public is a form of emotional abuse. Children who experience this type of punishment or discipline often commit suicide because they feel that they are rejected by the world and that their own parents do not care about them.
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As a last resort, many parents inadvertently resort to threats as a way to discipline their children. Threats can be as simple as not going to the party if a chore is not done or as horrible as spanking or hitting the child. Parents must remember that a threat teaches a child nothing about the practical and delicate consequences of behavior. To avoid this type of discipline, try not to use phrases like “If you don’t do your homework, you will be punished,” which is very negative. Be more positive and less punitive. Alternatively, you can change it to “As soon as you’re done with your homework, you can go out with your friends and play.”
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Ignoring can be an effective and ineffective discipline style. It can be effective when a child has tantrums. You can ignore the behavior, but make sure the child is safe. On the other hand, ignoring becomes bad when a parent no longer cares about the child, for example, ignoring the behavior of his son hitting someone else.
Certainly, there are no perfect parents. One can fall short and get caught up in anger. Remember that anger can bring out the worst in us and can lead to rash decisions. The primary role of parents is to protect the child from abuse and not to initiate the abuse. If you are concerned about your skills as a parent, you may want to contact people who can help you learn proper discipline skills, such as your child’s doctor or reputable parenting groups.
