Why is texting one of the best flirting and attraction tools?
Well, first think about all that goes into building attraction with someone in the real world. Like her hair, eyes, smell, confidence, words, weather, clothes, witty comments, and the list goes on. I call these attraction triggers. Now, it’s hard to build attraction with someone in the real world because you have to consider every trigger of attraction or else you won’t be successful in dating. So basically, the fewer attraction triggers you have to deal with, the better your chances of succeeding in generating attraction and interest. Text messages do just that. All you have to keep in mind are the words and the time and that’s it. Text the right words at the right time and you can expect to triple or double your dating success. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times.
Flirting is the key to getting the ball rolling in the right direction. It’s the unnecessary, but crucial part of creating attraction. One of your main purposes when texting is to flirt. I am going to share with you the 3 most important laws that you must follow whenever you flirt in your text messages.
Law #1: Build suspense over time (ten minute rule)
You have to, sometimes, build suspense when you’re texting. Create the roller coaster effect in your text messages. I always teach the ten minute rule to people who are just starting to text… which is, “never text within ten minutes of a vulnerable text.” In other words, if the person texts you something that makes them vulnerable, like “Yeah, I’ll be there, what time?” or “what are you doing tonight?”, you should keep them in that restless (vulnerable) place for ten minutes before giving the relief that all is well with you.
It’s like when you lose your keys or your wallet. At first, it’s not so bad and you start looking. Then, as time goes by, you become more frantic and start to feel uncomfortable inside. After about ten minutes, you are in a stressed state and you want them to show up! When you finally find them, you feel a rush of relief and feel great about the suspense and the possibility of not finding them. Apply this same rule in your text messages. Build suspense at times.
Law #2 – Keep it light, fun and needless
You probably really like the stressful feeling of trying to send the right text message to someone you like?!? You have probably also sent text messages and immediately after sending them, you thought of something that would have been better to send, right? That’s because you cared too much about what you were sending and it showed up in your message. If you relax and really understand that there are many fish in the sea, then you will send light and fun messages that do not say: “Please write to me, I need you!!!”
Law #3 – Choose words that generate attraction, not friendship
Words are the most powerful influence in anyone’s life. It determines where you are in any relationship and how strong that relationship will be. Now, I can’t just give you a bunch of words to text because it would take a lot more than an article to explain it all (however, if you want a ton of proven texts that work, you should definitely get the eBook” The Ultimate Guide to Texting. It teaches you exactly what to text to be successful with women.)
What I can do is give you tips to help you build more flirty text messages. That is, “text to generate attraction, not friendship”. Men fail here a lot because they are so used to sending friendly messages and they bring that style to their text messages with women. The first thing you are going to do is, before sending the message, read it and, to the extent of your emotional awareness, feel if it is a friendly message or if it is a message that generates interest (attraction). Once you understand the difference more clearly, you will have much more success flirting and being desired.
Key takeaway for men: You need to send messages that make women feel something. For example, let’s change those last few messages to something more flirtatious: “Hi honey” “I was in class and the teacher there reminded me of you, except she was cuter.” “Hey, we’re headed to a party, should you come?” You don’t get on a roller coaster because it’s boring, you get on because you know you’re going to feel something: she’ll text you and she’ll want you if you can create that same feeling.
