Who doesn’t want to be a sexy kitty? “Sex kitten”, “kitty”, “kitty”, “catcall” … there is a reason why humans find these beautiful creatures so attractive! They are intense and passionate, sensual and mysterious … everything that men desire and women aspire to be.

I have decided to indulge my fantasies and officially become a kitten! Pussy ears, necklaces, my own water bowl – I want to explore the world on my hands and knees like a real neko girl. [“Neko girls” (or “catgirls”) are the super cute half-human/half-cat creatures popular in romance anime and manga.]

Putting on cat ears for the first time felt like dressing up for Halloween, it was a bit awkward … but when I started to move my body more gracefully like a cat, I really started to enjoy this role-play setting. I can see why ‘petplay’ is a popular fetish in the bdsm community. If I wear cat ears with a tight black corset, I feel the silky curves of a sexy feline come out – I want to pounce on a piece of hot man meat! (Haha!) Putting myself in that mindset is surprisingly empowering. And if I wear fluffy white kitty ears with cute lace lingerie, I feel like a cute kitty ready to snuggle up in bed. Wearing kitty ears with my regular street clothes gives me a fun, playful, energetic vibe for whatever adventure the day throws at me.

The bdsm community pushes kitten play beyond a fashion fetish, it becomes a dom / sub relationship where the kitten plays with his master / owner. A generous master will often gift his kitten with a special collar for him to wear. Collarless kittens are often referred to as “stray dogs.” Like most subcultures, kitty play becomes a lifestyle and is practiced in and out of the bedroom … even if it seems as innocent as wearing a lock on a chain necklace in public. Ariana Grande likes to wear cat ears in public, maybe she’s also secretly a kitten?

Making necklaces is one of the most satisfying parts of my kitty play life so far, I love creating new looks. A heart-shaped name tag with a delicate lace around my neck, or sharp tips in black satin – the colors and possibilities are endless! I like to let my lingerie inspire my necks, but the holidays are also so much fun.

Instagram has a rapidly growing community of kittens, all sharing photos of their collars and feline adventures. It is a solid platform for experimentation and female power.