Chasing a cheating husband

Do you remember the Tom and Jerry cartoons? Why did Tom have so much trouble catching Jerry? Was it that Jerry was so much smarter? Not really. Tom was smart too. Jerry won because he was always two steps ahead of Tom. Tom was always so preoccupied and focused on the chase that he became predictable.

Who followed who?

Tom followed Jerry. That’s what Jerry wanted.

This article is not about winning, losing, or even chasing, but there are some tips we can take from the philosophy of chasing someone.

Who I am?
My name is Orlando and I want to help. I cheated on my first wife many years ago and I did it despite being what I consider to be a man who genuinely cares a lot about women’s feelings. I remember what he did to try to get me back. I remember how I felt, how I reacted. I have some insightful tips that can help you.

Cheating is never the solution
Make no mistake, I think cheating is wrong, period, no matter what the reason. Since my infidelity with my first wife I have moved on and rebuilt myself. You can read more about my story to understand who I am and what happened if you want to decide if you can trust my advice, but you came to this post for help right now, so if I can, let’s cut to the chase.

Discovering the ugliness of your husband’s infidelity has to be an emotional experience, IF NOT THE MOST PAINFUL, that you have ever been through. Lots of stories of cheating husbands litter the internet. After reading one of them a moment ago in www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums I had to stop what I was doing to write this post.

Sad stories of betrayed wives
So this loving and caring wife writes about finding herself in a marriage with a habitual lying man. Shortly after marrying him, she discovers that her house was in danger of foreclosure (apparently, the house was his to begin with before they married and he didn’t disclose the financial problems she was having). So who rescued them from trouble? You guessed it. Their. She then she had a big health scare. Who disbursed the money again? If she.

So she catches him sexting one of his younger employees at work including photos of his private parts. It makes me sick to think that men do this. Why not confront his wife and express what frustrates you about her relationship? That would be the most rational, but people are not rational or fair. I still get angry with myself for being deceived.

Let’s go back to the story.

So the betrayed wife writes about it, well, in so many words (from my observation as a man) begging him to stay and humiliating herself by doing what she thinks is necessary to MAKE HIM ATTRACTED TO HER again. She dresses sexy, writes love letters, reminds him of all the great times together, and cooks for him, among other things.

Appease your cheating spouse. this sounds familiar
Hmm, sounds familiar. Oh yeah, that’s what my ex did when he caught me. And how did that make me feel?

How to run away as fast as I can. Sorry to tell you that ladies.

Ex Gets Cheated On Again – Cheating Really Sucks!

Oh yes, interestingly enough, my ex who I am still friends with (because I really care) came face to face with marital infidelity again with her second husband. I was one of the first people she cried to and she told them all the details. she accidentally found sixths between your husband and someone at work. And again, acting panicked, she tried the placating approach with cards, dressing sexy and desperately trying to MAKE HIM ATTRACTED TO HER again.

It didn’t work.

Get to the point: the bottom line on cheating husbands
Tom chased after Jerry, not the other way around. Jerry never cared what Tom did. Tom was ALWAYS focused on what Jerry was doing.

Here’s the straight advice. DO NOT chase your man. It will NEVER work. He will NOT make you ACCOMPANY him AGAIN.

Men are NOT attracted to begging. DO NOT beg, DO NOT plead. This is NOT attractive.

Is he a fool for cheating? YES!!

Can you justify your deception? NO! She could have chosen a different way to handle her emotions, instead she felt starting over with someone else was the answer.

The advice you did NOT see coming
The ugly truth is that NO man, NO person, will ever make you completely happy. Yes, the right relationship feels good, but in the end YOU control your happiness.

If you want to have any chance of getting it back, instead of focusing on THEIR reaction to what you do, you need to focus on YOU DO and THINK, specifically how you view relationships.

Identify self-sabotaging thoughts

Write down those thoughts that make you depend on another person to provide you with happiness (emotional dependence).
• I love him so much and I can’t live without him
• I hope I have qualities that he (and men in general) find attractive.
• My life will be a mess if I lose him (or if I don’t have a man in my life).

Start exchanging your toxic self-talk for new ways of dealing with relationships.
• Of “I love him so much and I can’t live without him.” a “I’ve had a lot of good times with him, but there are a lot of things that make me happy. I’m strong with him or without him.”
• Of “I hope I have qualities that he (and men in general) find attractive” a “Through thick and thin, I’m willing to make our relationship work. That alone is a very valuable quality.”
• Of “My life will be a mess if I lose him (or if I don’t have a man in my life)” a “Yeah, it will hurt, but I know I’ll be fine even if he’s not around. But if he’s not willing to get through this tough time with me, then he’s not the right one for me anyway and someone out there is better suited for me.” me.”

The win-win situation
It takes some time, but you have to empower yourself to feel strong and that power NEVER comes from someone else. It is a process of changing your poisonous, self-defeating thoughts into healthy thoughts that are not only true, but put you in control of how you feel.

The good news is that you can start today if you want.

So what is the win-win position?

Benefits of taking ownership of your own thoughts
Once new ways of looking at relationships become a part of you, you will reap the rewards of feeling strong and in control of your happiness. Here are some of the benefits it will create for you:

• YOU WILL BELIEVE you have something to offer him (or men in general).
• You will understand that relationships are an asset in life, NOT a necessity. You’ll be fine whether you’re in one or not.
• He (or men in the future) will be attracted to your confidence. He will love being around you.
• He (or men in the future) will be careful how he treats you because your confidence tells him you DON’T need him. He (they) will be afraid that the wrong move may scare you.
• You would not tolerate childish behavior because you would no longer depend on someone else to bring you happiness.
• You would see a man who cheats as a poor lost and wounded soul looking to find himself. You would want to help him or get rid of him.

Since when do you want to follow a poor lost soul?

Don’t be Thomas.