A mass marriage generally means an affair by either spouse, which need not be the case in many cases. A marriage becomes crowded when there is an external factor that intrudes on the couple’s privacy. This factor could be interfering with the in-laws on both sides or it could be an obsessive preoccupation with work (overly ambitious or workaholic) or it could be simple indifference. Very often it is the apathy on the part of both spouses and their lack of investment of time in the relationship that explains an invisible presence responsible for the failure of a marriage.

Vijayan and Madhavi is a newly married couple living with their parents. Madhavi is annoyed that Vijayan comes home late every day and complains that he would rather spend more time with her parents than with her.

She complains: “Her excuse is that before the marriage she had not spent enough time with her parents because of work. If that was the case, why did she want to get married? She should have devoted her time to her parents instead of getting married and neglecting their parents”. me.” She has a point.

Vijayan’s apprehensive is that his parents will feel abandoned if he spends time alone with her. While her fears are appreciated, Vijayan must realize that his newlywed wife needs privacy and attention during the initial stage. This does not mean having a separate bedroom. She needs to feel safe and loved and that means spending more time without distractions.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment between two unrelated people united except by marriage. So the relationship is definitely more special and should be given that important place. This does not mean that you have to relegate other relationships to the background. It is about the sanctity of marriage and by extension the wife who automatically takes first place by virtue of the piety of the relationship.

Rajeev and Latha are successful in their respective careers. They are a safe couple. But both are unhappy. The reason is that their busy careers are taking them away from each other. When Rajeev is in town, Latha is out with a project and vice versa. They both don’t have time to be with each other and their respective work takes precedence over everything else. Both are reluctant to give up their lucrative careers. Work has made your marriage too overloaded to exclude everything else in your life, including having children. So much so that they have reached a point of no return.

While it is important to have a successful career, it is just as important, if not more, to have a fruitful married life. If the couple had decided not to have children, it would not have been a problem. However, they both want children but do not want to sacrifice their careers to plan for a child. The biggest stress factor in having a child takes its toll on them and proves otherwise.

Now what do you want? They have to make a choice. Rajeev and Latha need to make a choice, and that choice may require a great sacrifice from one or both parties. The question is: are they willing to go the extra mile?

To avoid overcrowding, it is imperative to provide space in the marriage. It’s not about having a bedroom of your own or being indifferent leading parallel lives, it’s about giving space for both of you to grow independently and also inclusively so that the relationship becomes something wonderful to cherish. A relationship for posterity, after all, that’s what marriage is all about: a lifelong commitment!