Many people have come to me with the same problem; ‘Everything seems so perfect with this new person I met, I can’t find anything wrong, so I better go before I get hurt.’

It is very common to not be able to figure out what that strange thing is that prevents you from having that deep connection.

It’s too good to be true.

That feeling triggers subconscious fears of getting hurt and prevents you from making that deep emotional connection. So you just accept that there’s a problem you can’t see and run away.

But the only problem is that you can’t believe that you found someone so perfectly aligned with your desires.

The qualities you look for in a partner are often set to a very high standard. When you really find someone with those qualities, you tend to close your heart or run away because you can’t believe it’s true.

“How could I find someone with all the qualities I’m looking for?” “I must be missing something.”

The fear kicks in that if you found that special someone you would be so deeply in love, if they left you would be totally devastated. So your subconscious fears tell you that it’s better to choose someone with flaws that you can see, so you never let your heart get fully involved in the relationship.

But of course, that leads to repeat relationships that end in failure, obviously, since you choose someone you don’t really fit in with.

We have to learn to trust more and take risks with a strong heart that is willing to risk being disappointed.

Our courses and articles at Relationshipcoachonline.com will empower you to deal with disappointment and rejection and give you so much confidence that you won’t mind taking that risk.

Only by taking a chance will you have a chance of success, because the perfect partner won’t know where you live and will knock on your door.

Be willing to try and find out if they really are too good to be true. If you don’t, your relationships will be perpetually disappointing because you will only accept and enter into a relationship with someone who is significantly flawed or who is not what you are looking for.

If you’re lucky enough to find a real gem of a couple, don’t turn down the special when you find yourself thinking it’s too good to be true.

If you have a feeling that something is wrong and you cannot understand what, consider that what is wrong is your own fear.

Your fear is what keeps you in the endless cycle of choosing the wrong partner and missing the right one.

To have the strength not to fear being hurt, follow these three easy steps;

1. Think about how many times you have been hurt, and that you are still here, you will always recover.

2. Look forward, not back. Difficulties are what make us stronger, and the past was only preparing you for the future, so don’t let it imprison you.

3. There is only one thing that makes life perfect, and that is a loving relationship. If you don’t take risks, you will guarantee yourself a lonely life. So give it a try and know if it works great, but if it doesn’t you’ll pick yourself up and try again.

Every day is a new beginning for a new life. Forget the past and look towards a happy future.