Sex is crucial in an intimate relationship. Yet all too often the hustle and bustle of life takes over and before you know it, your intimate sessions end up being a quick game under the blankets on your bed with the lights off. Sounds familiar?

Take advantage of occasions like wedding anniversaries, Valentine’s Day and birthdays to regain the spark. According to sexologist Aleida Heinz, for your sexual experience to be enhanced, you must stimulate most or all of the 5 senses and turn your bedroom into a love paradise with this in mind you can make that special occasion or the most special one.

# 1 View: “Men are visual” is a cliché, but very true at that. In addition to turning him on as soon as he walks through the bedroom door, lingerie will make you feel sexy and confident. Put on that new piece of lingerie and you will be looking forward to the next anniversary. We no longer have an excuse because lingerie comes in all sizes and designs.

Red has often been referred to as the color of love and it is understandable. In color psychology, red is the most emotionally intense color; it stimulates a faster heart rate and breathing, which are physiological responses associated with intercourse. However, too much red in your bedroom would make it difficult for your heart rate to return to normal after sex and could cause disturbances in your sleeping pattern.

For this reason, it’s best to go for lighter shades or mixes of red like pink and peach and use solid red as an accent color on perhaps one of the bedroom walls, curtains, or part of the bedding.

Scent # 2: Use your favorite scent in your body lotion or perfume. You can buy him a body wash with your favorite scent and encourage him to use it at night before going to bed. I still remember the cologne my husband was wearing when we met and yes, every time I smell it on him today I get nostalgic. Light scented candles in the room, but remember to place them away from the bed and curtains to avoid accidents.

Touch # 3: Many of us believe that silk bedding is best when it comes to making love. The feel of silk rubbing against the skin is lovely. However, silk is expensive and more difficult to maintain than regular sheets. You can go for those that have the highest quality of yarn such as pure cotton.

# 4 Flavor: Strategically place aphrodisiac foods like chocolates, bananas, apples, marshmallows, and wine in the room and feed them before, during, and even after sex. The best types of foods are those that you can eat with your hands. In this way the physical connection is maintained all the time. The chocolate fondue can be poured on their bodies and they can feast on if that’s their cup of tea. It’s fun and messy, but you have to consider the repercussions of food on your bedding.

# 5 Sound: Play a soft musical serenade in your bedroom. We are advised to keep televisions out of the bedroom, but if you have one, put on an erotic show or love guide to set the mood. The choice of music will depend on what you both like, but I think no one can go wrong with some rhythm and blues.