Some songs like “Elvira” take forever to write and are considered deep and deep. If you’ve ever had a woman hate you, you’ll know how quickly she came up with Puddle of Mudd with her song “she She Hates Me.” However, all is not lost when he suddenly finds his oldest photo on his dart board, as these tips will help him win back a spurned lady.

Step 1: Why does he hate you? The way to win back a woman who hates you is to reverse the reason for her hatred. This could be easy, like paying her back the $25 she owes him, or much more difficult, like explaining to her why she turned to hedonism with her sister, but the first step is to identify why.

Step 2: With Work: A girl will usually not finish and will hate you because you owe her $25, so you probably have a bit of work ahead of you. The best thing you can do is recognize that she has an uphill road and take action. You can’t get ripped abs overnight.

Step 3: Take the Blame: Even if she went into the hedonism with your brother, then left you and despised you when she came back, you may have to take the blame to win her back. “I’m sorry darling, it’s my fault because she wasn’t around to go to Hedonism with you…although you never mentioned it, my fault.”

Step 4: Being single: If a girl has in mind that you are the epitome of everything bad, sometimes the worst thing you can do is stay together. If you both take some time to breathe and reassess your life and her relationship, she may realize that her hate is really just a strong dislike and they’ll be on their way back.

Step 5: Do not throw water on the fire: Usually, people say that you shouldn’t pour gasoline on the fire because it will get bigger, but in this case, you might not want to pour water on the fire of anger that your ex girlfriend has built up. Let her vent and take the aggression out of her because there is something bothering her, the least likely of which is you.

Step 6: One by one: It will be very easy for her to maintain that impulse of hate when she has her perpetually single cronies whispering advice in her ear. He tries to get some time alone with her to explain her side of her story and let her vent about the real reason she is so full of grudges.

Step 7: Nothing at all: If you’ve ever loved someone, you probably know in your heart of hearts that you could never hate them… even if it were to hedonism with your whole family. If this girl really does get sick to her stomach every time you’re around her, leave her alone…it’s probably not worth fighting in the end.