Confused about where you are going with your marriage relationship? – Here are 14 points to consider
Do you really understand your marital relationship or are you confused about it? If you’re feeling lost in understanding where you really are in your relationship, and you’re not sure where your true feelings lie, maybe it’s time to start looking into why you feel this way.
Start by asking yourself these questions:
- Do I really love my partner?
- Did I ever really love my partner?
- Are there things about my partner that I don’t like or hate that have affected my love for them?
- Am I in a really honest marriage relationship?
- Does my partner really love me? – How about you ask them?
- Does my partner cheat on me or ignore or mistreat me at times? – These are questions that surely give reasons to doubt the solidity of your relationship.
- Do we agree on most of the issues?
- Is my partner as mature in most respects as I am?
- Do I feel that my partner is capable of growth?
- How do we both feel about family matters?
- Do we move in different circles?
- What about intellectual and spiritual matters? Are we compatible in these areas?
- Do we have the same wishes and desires, not only for life in general, but also regarding our marital relationship?
- Do I really trust my partner?
Whats Next?
Once you’ve gone through this list, make a list of what you expect from a partner and what you want out of life. Then decide at that point if there is enough compatibility to provide the marriage relationship you really want.
Don’t count on your partner meeting all of your expectations; this would be quite rare in our experience.
If you decide that you want your partnership to work, but there are issues that you really like regarding your marital relationship, then discuss your feelings and uncertainties with your partner and see if you can work things out. When you raise these concerns, you may find that your partner is completely oblivious to any problems with the relationship.
Just a word of warning.
Do not try to solve any of the more serious problems, such as infidelity, abuse or addictions on your own, seek the help of a professional marriage counselor to help you with these problems.
